{"id":56381,"date":"2025-04-17T18:55:26","date_gmt":"2025-04-17T16:55:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/?p=56381"},"modified":"2025-04-18T21:14:03","modified_gmt":"2025-04-18T19:14:03","slug":"ailede-saglikli-iletisim-icin-ipuclari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/ailede-saglikli-iletisim-icin-ipuclari\/","title":{"rendered":"Ailede Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u0130leti\u015fim \u0130\u00e7in \u0130pu\u00e7lar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>K\u0131ymetli M\u00fcminler!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsano\u011flu bir e\u015fe, bir yuvaya, g\u00fcvene ve ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa, deste\u011fe ve payla\u015f\u0131ma, sevgiye ve ilgiye, huzura ve \u015fefkate, k\u0131sacas\u0131 bir aile olmaya ihtiya\u00e7 duymaktad\u0131r. Aile geni\u015f veya dar diye nitelendirilemeyecek kadar tam, engin ve zengin bir b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckt\u00fcr. Anne-baba, dede-nine, evlat-torun, akraba-kom\u015fu, bu b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn olmazsa olmaz unsurlar\u0131d\u0131r. Aile olmak, Rabbimizin beyan\u0131yla<strong> \u201cbirbirine elbise olmakt\u0131r.\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn1\" name=\"_ftnref1\">[1]<\/a><\/strong><br \/>\nAile, elbise gibi \u00f6rt\u00fcc\u00fc, elbise gibi koruyucu, elbise gibi g\u00fczelle\u015ftirici, elbise gibi uyumlu olmakt\u0131r. Aile sevincin, mutlulu\u011fun, h\u00fczn\u00fcn birlikte ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 mukaddes bir m\u00fcessesedir. Bundan dolay\u0131 aile, asl\u0131nda bir ili\u015fki alan\u0131ndan ziyade, \u00e7ok y\u00f6nl\u00fc bir ileti\u015fim alan\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>De\u011ferli M\u00fcminler!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0130leti\u015fim, iki insan aras\u0131nda bir bilgiyi aktarma, anlatma ve anlama s\u00fcrecidir. D\u00fcnyay\u0131 anlaml\u0131 k\u0131lmaya; ke\u015ffetti\u011fimiz anlam\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla payla\u015fmaya, derdimizi, duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi, ihtiya\u00e7 ve beklentilerimizi kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine aktarmaya ileti\u015fim diyoruz. Bunu incinmeden ve incitmeden yapabilmek ise do\u011fru ya da sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim olarak isimlendirilmektedir. \u0130leti\u015fim kimi zaman s\u00f6zl\u00fc olur; konu\u015farak, s\u00f6yle\u015ferek hasbih\u00e2l ederiz. Kimi zaman da s\u00f6zs\u00fcz olur; bir duru\u015fla, bir bak\u0131\u015fla, bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme ya da bir ka\u015f \u00e7at\u0131\u015fla sessiz ileti\u015fim kurmu\u015f oluruz. Huzurlu ve mutlu bir aile, hi\u00e7bir sorunla ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya gelmeyen, hi\u00e7bir tart\u0131\u015fmaya ve gerilime sahne olmayan aile demek de\u011fildir. Huzurlu ve mutlu aile, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim a\u011f\u0131 kurarak sorunlar\u0131 ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 insanca \u00e7\u00f6zebilen aile demektir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Muhterem Karde\u015flerim!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Y\u00fcce Rabbimiz bir \u00e2yet-i ker\u00eemede \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmaktad\u0131r: <strong>\u201cKullar\u0131ma s\u00f6yle: (\u0130nsanlara kar\u015f\u0131) en g\u00fczel s\u00f6z\u00fc s\u00f6ylesinler. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015feytan aralar\u0131n\u0131 bozar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015feytan insan\u0131n apa\u00e7\u0131k bir d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn2\" name=\"_ftnref2\">[2]<\/a><\/strong> Ayette m\u00fcminlerin konu\u015fmalar\u0131nda bir g\u00fczellik ve incelik bulunmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi belirtilmekte, ili\u015fkilerinde ve konu\u015fmalar\u0131nda terbiye ve nezaket kurallar\u0131na riayet etmeleri \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlenmektedir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imi insan olman\u0131n bir gere\u011fidir. Bir insana etki etmek, onu de\u011fi\u015ftirmek istiyorsan\u0131z; bu e\u015finiz, \u00e7ocu\u011funuz ya da bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 olabilir, onunla olumlu bir ili\u015fki, pozitif bir ileti\u015fim kurmak zorundas\u0131n\u0131z. Hutbemizin ba\u015f\u0131nda okudu\u011fumuz \u00e2yet-i cel\u00eelede Y\u00fcce Rabbimiz, <strong>\u201cKendileri ile huzur bulas\u0131n\u0131z diye sizin i\u00e7in kendi cinsinizden e\u015fler yaratmas\u0131, aran\u0131zda sevgi ve merhamet var etmesi Allah\u2019\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n ve kudretinin delillerindendir. \u015e\u00fcphesiz bunda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen bir toplum i\u00e7in elbette ibretler vard\u0131r.\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn3\" name=\"_ftnref3\">[3]<\/a><\/strong> buyurmaktad\u0131r. Kur\u2019an-\u0131 Kerim, ailenin temeline \u2018meveddet\u2019 ve \u2018rahmet\u2019 kelimelerini yerle\u015ftirir. G\u00f6n\u00fcl dili asl\u0131nda bu iki kelimeden olu\u015fur. Meveddet sevgidir, muhabbettir, a\u015fkt\u0131r. Rahmet ise merhamettir, \u015fefkattir, nezakettir. Ba\u015f\u0131ndan sonuna meveddeti yani g\u00f6nl\u00fcndeki sevgiyi seslendirebilmek ve en zor zamanlarda kalbindeki rahmetin s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissettirebilmek, g\u00f6n\u00fcl dilinin h\u00e2kim k\u0131l\u0131nmas\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00f6n\u00fcl dilinin h\u00e2kim oldu\u011fu bir yuvada aile i\u00e7i \u015fiddetten, ileti\u015fimsizlikten bahsedilemez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc b\u00f6yle bir yuvan\u0131n, ailenin i\u00e7i d\u0131\u015f\u0131 rahmet olur.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Muhterem Karde\u015flerim!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6n\u00fcl dilinin, rahmetin yer etti\u011fi ailede, rahmet konu\u015fur \u015fiddet susar, sevgi konu\u015fur nefret susar, dostlar konu\u015fur d\u00fc\u015fmanlar susar, bilek g\u00fcc\u00fc de\u011fil y\u00fcrek g\u00fcc\u00fc konu\u015fur. \u201cSen\u201d diye d\u0131\u015flama de\u011fil, \u201cbiz\u201d diye ku\u015fatma ve kucakla\u015fma vard\u0131r, herkes g\u00fczeldir, g\u00fczel g\u00f6r\u00fcr, g\u00fczeli g\u00f6r\u00fcr ve g\u00fczelle\u015ftirir. Yokluk de\u011fil bolluk vard\u0131r. Burukluk de\u011fil mutluluk vard\u0131r. Kusur de\u011fil gurur vard\u0131r. Beddua de\u011fil hep dua vard\u0131r. Lanet de\u011fil davet vard\u0131r. Hutbemizin ba\u015f\u0131nda okudu\u011fumuz had\u00ees-i \u015ferif mealiyle ve bir duayla bitirelim. Efendimiz (s.a.v.) \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmu\u015ftur: <em>\u201cSizin en hay\u0131rl\u0131n\u0131z, ailesine kar\u015f\u0131 en hay\u0131rl\u0131 olan\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Ben de aileme kar\u015f\u0131 en hay\u0131rl\u0131 olan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131m.\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn4\" name=\"_ftnref4\"><strong>[4]<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Allah\u2019\u0131m! Ailelerimize sevgi, sayg\u0131, sadakat, sab\u0131r, sorumluluk, esenlik ve bereket ihsan eyle! Ailelerimizi \u00fclfet, muhabbet, meveddet, rahmet ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 birliktelik duygular\u0131yla kayna\u015ft\u0131r. Yuvalar\u0131m\u0131za nefret, fitne, ihanet ve ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n girmesine izin verme. Amin!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\">[1]<\/a> Bakara suresi, 2:187<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref2\" name=\"_ftn2\">[2]<\/a> \u0130sr\u00e2 suresi, 17:53<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref3\" name=\"_ftn3\">[3]<\/a> R\u00fbm suresi, 30:21<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref4\" name=\"_ftn4\">[4]<\/a> Tirmiz\u00ee, Men\u00e2k\u0131b, 63<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/TR_18_04_25_Ailede_Sag_likli_I_letis_im_I_c_in_I_puc_lari_.pdf\">Hutbe-T\u00fcrk\u00e7e<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Hutba-26.07.2024-Rechte-der-Eltern-.pdf\">Hutbe-Almanca<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/EN_18_04_25_Tips_for_Healthy_Family_Communication_.pdf\">Hutbe-\u0130ngilizce<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/FR_18_04_25_Conseils_pour_une_communication_saine_au_sein_de_la_famille_.pdf\">Hutbe-<span class=\"Y2IQFc\" lang=\"tr\">Frans\u0131zca<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/\u0627\u0644\u062a_\u0641_\u0627\u0647_\u0645_\u0627\u0644\u0627_\u0633_\u0631_\u064a_.pdf\">Hutbe-Arap\u00e7a<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/NL_18_04_25_Tips_voor_Gezonde_Communicatie_binnen_het_Gezin_.pdf\">Hutbe-Hollandaca<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"pdf_icon\" href=\"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/SV_18_04_25_Tips_fo_r_en_va_lma_ende_kommunikation_inom_familjen_.pdf\">Hutbe-\u0130sve\u00e7\u00e7e<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130nsano\u011flu bir e\u015fe, bir yuvaya, g\u00fcvene ve ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa, deste\u011fe ve payla\u015f\u0131ma, sevgiye ve ilgiye, huzura ve \u015fefkate, k\u0131sacas\u0131 bir aile olmaya ihtiya\u00e7 duymaktad\u0131r. Aile geni\u015f veya dar diye nitelendirilemeyecek kadar tam, engin ve zengin bir b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":31304,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0},"categories":[23235,23242,23239],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56381"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=56381"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56381\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":56420,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56381\/revisions\/56420"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31304"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=56381"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=56381"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.igmg.org\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=56381"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}